Because Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, it’s time to talk about love. The obvious Valentine’s Day symbols – hearts, flowers, chocolates – aren’t bad in their place. I’ve always been happy to receive them. But, what about making your expressions of love more personal and heartfelt?
There’s a saying in my house that goes like this, “It’s the little things.” Mostly my husband says it, and usually in response to my request that he be a bit more romantic. He’s not a gushy romantic kind of guy (I’ve never known any guy who was, but I’ve heard they exist.) What he is is a man who has stood next to me through miscarriages, infertility, cancer and various family crisis. But back to the little things…..
For the past 24 years, my husband has brought me tea in bed every Saturday morning. He offers to run a bath for me when I’m stressed. He makes homemade “gravy” (that’s Italian for tomato sauce) so we can have macaroni and gravy as a family every Sunday night. He loves my cooking and never complains when once in a while a new recipe goes horribly wrong. Every morning he asks me to pick out his tie, as I have done since we got married.
And what about our larger home – our communities and our earth? We are all survivors of something and we all deserve a safe and nurturing nest. By extending our loving actions out into the world, we help make that a reality.
Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of things, in which smiles and kindness, and small obligations given habitually, are what preserve the heart and secure comfort. Humphry Davy
Or, as my husband always tells me, “It’s the little things.”
Survival > Existence,