What Do You Need? Make Self-Care a Priority this Valentine’s Day

That’s not to say I wouldn’t appreciate being swept off my feet with a surprise flight to Paris as much as the next girl. But who are we kidding? Crazy expensive, over-the-top romantic gestures are rare. When it comes to maintaining a 25-year marriage, it’s the little things (like Saturday morning tea and Sunday “gravy”) that keep us connected day after day, week after week.
The same can be said for self-care. While a week-long stay at a spa/resort would be heavenly, it’s the daily, little things that keep the well from running dry.
Of course, it’s easy to prioritize everything else above self-care. I’ve yet to write a to-do list that includes self-care. That’s because I tend to see work as the first priority of my day, with everything else coming in a distant second.
The first step to exercising self-care is awareness. Find a quiet moment and ask yourself, “What do I need? You may be surprised to learn you need silence, more sleep, or just some time off to be blissfully unproductive.

A month ago, I suddenly blurted out that I needed more fun and less all work/no play weekends. Two days later my friend Lockey asked me if I wanted to go with her into New York City the following Friday night to hear Kris Carr and Gabrielle Bernstein speak.

Of course!  We drove into the city, enjoyed the presentation, had a wonderful dinner, drove back to her house and sat up until 5:30 a.m. talking. After a few hours of sleep, the snow outside persuaded me to stay a bit longer and hang out by the fireplace.
The following Friday evening I had an unexpected dinner with my friend and her husband, who I hadn’t seen in many years. Last Friday evening, after a day that went in a completely different direction than originally planned, I ended up having another unexpected visit – this time with my mother.
I didn’t realize what was happening until after my dinner with my friend and her husband. When I realized I had clearly stated what I needed, only to get it a few days later, I was floored. And then I remembered
Several months ago I read an interesting book, E-Squared: Nine Do-It-Yourself Energy Experiments That Prove Your Thoughts Create Your Reality. One of the experiments is to state clearly what you want, and then wait for it to appear within 48 hours.
I thought it was a bit woo-woo, but I tried and asked for something irrelevant. It didn’t work. But it sure worked this time.
The morale of my story is simple: Stop burying your needs under obligations to work and others. Pay attention to yourself and state clearly what you need. Make the little things you need a priority and abundance will be yours.
Don’t forget to be your own Valentine today and every day!
Survival > Existence,
Debbie
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(or, how my husband made a grand romantic gesture out of a very little thing.)

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Claudia Schmidt's picture

Very interesting….when I

Very interesting….when I spoke out loud that I wanted more time to myself and wanted to find a way to work 3 days a week, while making the same level of income I was making from 5, I meant it for the future. A week later one of my clients said that they were moving to a new brand and wouldn’t be able to extend my time on their brand. I suddenly found myself with 2 free days! I was so pleased as it helped me keep my balance in so many other ways. Sometimes woo woo things are real 🙂

 

Debbie's picture

I’m Liking Woo Woo!

Hi Claudia:

This isn’t the first time this has happened to me. I also had a work-related “say it out loud and it will come” moment recently. I’m going to give this a whirl more often. I think the secret is that you really, really want what you ask for. I’m liking woo woo!

Survival > Existence,

Debbie

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